Why We Avoid Talking About Wills
August is Make-A-Will Month—a gentle reminder about something many of us avoid: creating a will.
Why do we delay it?
We think we’re too young.
We feel uncomfortable facing the idea of death.
We believe it can wait until “someday.”
But avoiding this step doesn’t protect us—it often leaves our families unprepared during one of the hardest moments of their lives.
A Will Is More Than a Legal Document
Many see a will as a cold, legal formality. In reality, it is a profound act of love and responsibility.
A will allows you to:
Make sure your wishes are respected.
Reduce stress and conflict among your loved ones.
Provide clarity at a time of pain and confusion.
Leave a legacy of care instead of unanswered questions.
What I’ve Seen as a Grief Specialist
As a thanatologist, I’ve accompanied families in their grief for many years. I’ve seen the difference when a will exists—and when it doesn’t.
With a will: Families still grieve, but they do so with more peace. There is clarity. Their loved one thought of them and prepared a guide for difficult decisions.
Without a will: Grief often becomes heavier. Families face stress, uncertainty, and sometimes painful conflicts on top of their mourning.
It’s the same with advance directives. When conversations don’t happen, loved ones are left guessing at wishes—often in the middle of a crisis.
Not having the conversation does not protect us. It only postpones the pain and transfers it to those we love.
A Step of Love This August
Make-A-Will Month is not about paperwork—it’s about courage. Before the month ends, if you have been hesitating, make this decision. It will give you peace of mind. Remember that it’s about transforming fear into clarity and silence into peace.
Ask yourself the following questions based on your reality (as it changes from time to time):
Do I have a will in place?
If I do, is it up to date?
If I don’t, could this be the month I take this loving step for my family?
Final Reflection
Creating a will does not mean you are ready to die—it means you are ready to live responsibly, lovingly, and with purpose.
This August, let’s turn avoidance into action and fear into a legacy of love.
From my heart to yours,
Ligia M. Houben, MA, FT
Thanatologist | Grief Specialist | Author | Speaker
