It’s about time…

If you are facing a difficult life transition now, people may tell you:

  • It’s about time you feel better.  You cannot be sad (or angry, or anxious) all the time.
  • You should distract yourself and stop thinking about what has happened to you (even if you lost your loved one and you DO NOT KNOW how to continue).
  • You should be positive-like if you can just erase what has happened to you.
  • You have to be strong (generally, people define strength with no crying).

In almost no time, you become the result of the expectation of others-your family, your friends, society-and you stuff your grief deep in your heart.  But there is a challenge with that…

What you ignore doesn’t cease to exist…it is only repressed.
Before you know it, you may be expressing your grief physically (headaches, insomnia, excess eating) or socially (isolating yourself).
As a bereaved person, you have the right to process your grief and embrace life again. 

In this video, Ligia M. Houben has a message for you and invites you to reflect on which areas of your life your grief may be manifesting.  

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After watching the video, reflect on these three questions:
How am I expressing my grief physically?
How is my grief influencing my personal relationships?
How am I dealing with my grief on a daily basis?

You can post your comments here.

If there is an issue with your grief you are having a special challenge with, I would like to know about it. Share it here: info@ligiahouben.com

From my heart to yours,

Ligia M. Houben