To possess self-confidence is to believe in ourselves and in what we can do. It is to have assurance in our abilities. We can experiment with self-confidence in different areas of our lives, whether personally or professionally. It is to feel that despite any obstacle, we can achieve what we want to accomplish.

When due to some experience of the past or some obstacle you face now, you begin to doubt yourself, that self-confidence begins to shake, and you may find yourself filled with doubts. Lack of self-confidence can prevent you from being the person you want to be. You may want to succeed as a great speaker, and a lack of self-confidence doesn’t allow you to speak in public. You may want to have a beautiful relationship with your partner, but your lack of self-confidence can make you feel insecure; you may face a great loss in your life, and your lack of self-confidence and the ability to bounce back makes you doubt whether you can recover and embrace life again.

Our mind begins to entertain thoughts full of doubt and anxiety. The messages we give ourselves are focused on what we lack, and this brings more anxiety. Losing self-confidence affects our self-esteem and self-worth.

On the other hand, believing in oneself makes us feel safe, which makes us act with greater capacity.

Meditation and self-confidence

Meditation is a practice that can help you increase your self-confidence because focusing on your breathing helps you lower any anxiety you may be experiencing.

Also, it makes you aware of thoughts that may contribute to your lack of self-confidence, allowing you to change them towards empowering messages.

One thing that helps a lot is finding a mantra such as “I’m able to achieve what I want,” as it helps you focus on what you want and are capable of.

As you embrace the practice of meditation, you’ll notice how every time you meditate, it’s easier for you to let go of mental noise or what’s called a “monkey mind.” We focus on something instead of your mind dispersing into all the things you can’t do.

Many studies have shown that meditation helps us calm the anxiety and frustration that lack of confidence can provide.

Practicing meditation

Take a comfortable position, and focus on your breathing, gently inhale through your nose, exhaling through your mouth, concentrating on your breathing. Repeat it three times, saying in your mind, “I am relaxed”; then repeat in your mind the mantra you have chosen.

If thoughts start to distract you, gently focus on your breathing and mantra.

Do this exercise for 5-10 minutes 3 times a day for 3 weeks.

Write in your journal any changes you notice in how you feel.

You may be surprised to see how your life starts to change.

Remember, your life has meaning!

Ligia M. Houben

P.D. If you want to start (or continue) your meditation practice, I offer private classes at my center in Miami, Fl and also via Zoom. If you are interested, send me an email at