Ligia's blog

  • Bohemian Rhapsody

    Recently, the film Bohemian Rhapsody was released. It is a biographical film about Freddie Mercury, who was the legendary figure and leader of the British rock group, Queen.This film made a significant impact on me because I did not know about Queen’s life. In the film, several traits of his personality were hugely notorious. I

    December 10, 2018
  • Helping the Wounded Heart

    People ask me if bereavement support groups help. It is my belief they do if you are open to share and receive. Still, we know not everyone is for support groups. However, if you are, support groups offer you a safe space to open your heart and share your journey with others who have also

    November 15, 2018
  • Navigating Through Life Changes

    You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. Jim Rohn   Life changes and we change along with it.  If you are like me, you may be experiencing changes in life patterns, in life expectations and outcomes.  What you envisioned your life to

    October 22, 2018
  • Your Own Pain May Blind You…

    When we are consumed by grief, we may feel we are the only persons hurting, and we may not notice the pain of others.  Furthermore, we may be so blinded by our grief that we may say or do things that are hurting people we love. If this has happened to you…do not feel ashamed,

    October 4, 2018
  • From Darkness to Light

    As I work with many people going through losses or life transitions, I have been able to see the effect our attitude has on how we handle the situation. Some people face a small problem and find themselves hopeless, afraid, or with no motivation. Other people face huge losses and are able to withstand their

    September 24, 2018
  • Transforming Your Life When Helping Others

    This was the title of the talk I gave on September 15th at the volunteer’s orientation of Compassionate Care Hospice. It was an extraordinary occasion as hospice care is very close to my heart. The orientation was prepared by Mrs. Wanda Garcia, The Volunteer Coordinator and started with some words of Mrs. Mimi Israel, The

    September 21, 2018
  • Freedom Starts in your Mind

    We have the blessing of living in a free country where we can become whoever we want to be, do whatever, we want to do and go wherever we want to go. Still, many times we choose to stay in the same place; doing things we do not enjoy doing or dreaming to be the

    August 31, 2018
  • Are We Connected or Disconnected?

    We are living in amazing times! Because of technology, in a matter of seconds, we can get in touch with anybody in any part of the world.  The world has become more integrated. We can communicate via email, video conferences, phone, text…We are so connected! But wait…are we really connected? We may be connecting with

    August 28, 2018
  • Live a Meaningful Year

    Little things are numerous and therefore become important. Julio C. Martínez A. As we start a new year let’s choose an attitude that will help us achieve dreams, goals, make changes, and become a better version of ourselves. Only one day takes us from one year to the next, however, psychologically it can have a

    August 14, 2018
  • Unwrapping the Gift of Life.

    In this busy world we are living do you ever wonder how your life is evolving?  Where are you going? Where have you been? The day I do the greatest evaluation of my life is on my birthday, which was a few days ago.  As I unwrapped the gift of a new year of life,

    August 14, 2018
  • Paying Attention to What Really Matters

    Learn how to separate the majors and the minors. A lot of people don’t do well simply because they major in minor things. — Jim Rohn Our days on this Earth are limited. Although we may avoid thinking about this reality, we are not immortal and our loved ones are not immortal. Are we appreciating

    July 11, 2018
  • How Do You Define Love?

    The word love has only 4 letters, yet it encompasses so much that at times is hard to define.   Besides, being an abstract and complex concept, it is not easy to describe it.. In this message, and being this month dedicated to love, I will share with you how I define love.  Let’s keep in

    July 2, 2018
  • Dealing with Your Emotions During A Crisis

    If you feel desperate because you find yourself in a situation where you cannot find a way out, I want to share with you, certain techniques or tips that you can do to help you deal with your emotions. When living a difficult situation, sometimes we do not want to get out of bed to

    June 14, 2018
  • Understanding Suicide

    According to the famous suicidologist, Edwin Schneidman, suicide happens when a person is experiencing psychache (psychological pain) which is impossible to bear. In his seminal work, Definition of Suicide, Schneidman stated that the most common emotion a person who is contemplating suicide experiences is hopelessness-helplessness. Taking this valuable information into consideration, we can take a

    June 10, 2018
  • Be Grateful for Who You Are

    This message is about you. It is a reminder of the special and unique person you are.  You are an amazing human being with talents; with great qualities; with many gifts and yes, with some shortcomings as well.  That is what makes you who you are!   This week I want you to embrace the person you

    May 23, 2018
  • Setting the Intention for 2018

    As you start the year, take a pause and decide how you want this year to be. What do you want to achieve?  What dreams do you want to make a reality? What things do you want to let go? The first day of the year is the perfect time to make that decision. You

    January 1, 2018
  • The Need for Mindfulness

    If you are like me, you live in a world of distraction.  Multiple things have the potential of distracting us from what we intend to do.  For example, you may be one of those people who logs into the internet with the intention to look for something that would take few minutes, and then go

    June 8, 2017
  • Is It Possible to Master Fear?

      A few days ago, as I was driving and listening to NPR, as I usually do, and I heard an amazing interview on the program Fresh Air with Terry Gross. The interview was with Jordan Peele, director of the film Get Out, which is a horror movie. As Terry asked him how he got

    March 20, 2017
  • Are You Choosing to be Happy?

    Happiness is not something you expect for tomorrow; it is something you decide for today.                                                      -Ligia M. Houben           Are You Choosing to be Happy? All human beings strive for happiness. When we face a life-changing event, time does not stop. Life continues, and we continue living as well. One of the greatest reasons for

    February 20, 2017
  • Have You Stayed Committed?

    Most people as the New Year arrives plan to commit to a change in their lives; something that will make them feel happier, better, and more successful.  Are you one of these people?  If you are…have, you stayed committed to your goal? As we start the second month of 2017, you may find yourself stuck,

    February 3, 2017
  • Be Grateful for Who You Are

    This message is about you. It is a reminder of the special and unique person you are.  You are an amazing human being with talents; with great qualities; with many gifts and yes, with some shortcomings as well.  That is what makes you who you are!   This week I want you to embrace the person you

    January 29, 2017
  • The Last Reflection of 2016

    The Last Reflection of 2016   In just a few weeks, 2016 will be gone and we will be ready to start 2017, which brings new promises; new opportunities; new beginnings. Therefore, before embarking on a new year, it is a good idea to look back and reflect what this year has meant to us. As

    December 11, 2016
  • Loss of Identity

    Loss of identity   Do you find yourself wondering what has happened to your old self? Have you lost connection with who you are? Do you feel lost and without any direction? There is a loss that seems to be prevalent in our society. It is the loss of identity. When we talk about losses,

    October 9, 2016
  • Owning Your Thoughts Makes You Free

    Own your thoughts. Own your emotions. Own your actions. Owning your thoughts means you are in control of what goes on in your mind. What comes in; what stays; and what you discard. You stop being a victim of external factors. As Paulo Cohelo says in “The Alchemist”: At a certain point in our lives,

    September 12, 2016