I Wish You a Happy New Year!

As we start a New Year we wish others “Happy New Year!” Sometimes we may do it automatically, not paying attention to what it means. However, it means something huge. We are wishing others happiness in their lives, which is beautiful! Now, let me ask you…are you wishing happiness to you? This goes beyond making resolutions or planning the year. It goes deeper. It is connecting with yourself and paying attention to what your soul needs. It means wishing and embracing happiness for 2016, as it starts with you.

Do this experiment today (In case you don’t do it already). Stand in front of the mirror and say “I wish you a Happy New Year!” Feel it and make it yours! You are the person who can wish you a Happy New Year with more meaning as you know what can make you happy and if you are doing it! Keep in mind happiness is subjective and it is based on your own values. Also, you can be happy in some areas and not in others. Take into consideration all areas of your life!

When I coach clients who want to be happier, I give them the following questionnaire that now I share with you:

Are you happy? _____________________
Do you engage in activities that do not bring joy to your life? Enumerate them. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
How often do you engage in them?___________________
Which of these activities you can stop doing today._________________________________________________________________________
Make a list of all the things that make you happy. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What often do you engage in them?______________________
Choose ONE activity and do it more often. Then, little by little, continue adding activities that bring happiness to your life. Only you can do it! These can be simple activities such as sitting down with a good book and soft music playing in the background…the idea is enjoy what you do! ______________________________________________________________________________

As the Dalai Lama said: of Dalai Lama: Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.

Additionally, something else that helps us to be happier is our capacity of acceptance and adaptation. As we know, from time to time life throws to us some curveballs. Some of these curveballs are more difficult than others. At first, we may be angry, afraid, scared, or sad (remember the importance of acknowledging your feelings). Still, it is up to us if we choose to stay there and dwell on the pain, or use our capacity of adaptation and bounce back. We can always choose our attitude, and this will make a difference in our level of happiness as Bernie S. Siegel reminds us: Maintaining a positive attitude, no matter what your circumstances, increases the likelihood of your finding future happiness and fulfillment
Even a simple smile can make a difference in how we feel and how we live this year. Do you think you can smile despite losses or challenges? Is this a difficult concept to embrace?
I was taken by a blog written by Bruce Turkel, where he talks about the power of smiling. In this blog, Bruce talks about the amazing life of Sir Charlie Chaplin and his many talents. For example, I didn’t know he had composed the music for the soundtrack Smile in 1936! This tune was for his film Modern Times and the lyrics were written in 1954 by John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons.

The lyrics touched my heart, as they embrace hope and resonate with the core of my message: We can transform any loss or challenging life transition into personal growth.

“Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking.
When there are clouds in the sky
You’ll get by.
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through
For you.
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness.
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying.
You’ll see that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile.”

I hope these lyrics inspire you to smile more often and realize it can make the difference in your ability to be happier and making those around you, happier as well!
Furthermore, smiling is so meaningful, that in the interview
Tony Robbins Tips On Changing The Way You Feel
Tony shared what Mother Teresa told him when he asked her what excited her the most: Tony…what excites me most is to see a person die with a smile on their face.

We all want to be happy and our happiness this year will depend on our attitude, our ability of acceptance, and the actions we take every single day!

I wish you a Happy New Year!

Ligia M. Houben

 



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