- July 20, 2016
- Posted by: Admin
- Category: BLOG
Some time ago, I wrote the blog below, which I found appropriate to share one more time, as many times we do not realize we have control over what is happening to us. We may not choose events, still, we choose our response.
The quality of our life is based on how we live day to day. It is the result of what happens to us, how we respond (or react), and how we envision the future. The sad thing is that sometimes we are not living the “day to day” because we are yearning for the past, complaining about the present, and worrying about the future. Are you one of these people?
Many times, when I teach the workshop The Eleven Principles of Transformation ™, when we reach the eighth principle, which is “Live in the Now” I like to explore with the participants the importance of focusing on what we are doing today, on how to live consciously, and in learning to appreciate the present moment. If we focus on what we do in the course of the day, we can observe ourselves. How many things we do automatically? How many things we do just to get by? In how many empty conversations do we engage? How deeply do we connect with our soul?
Why do we allow sadness or problems to overwhelm us? Why not enter our inner self and use our resources to face any difficult situation and transform them? Why allow external events to dictate our lives? It is our choice, really. What are you choosing?
Well ….even when one is grieving or facing a problem, one chooses how to respond and something that really helps is to be present. Do not run away from the pain, rather, confront it face to face. There is a book called Grieving Mindfully written by Dr. Sameet M. Kumar, who speaks of being present when one is grieving. Dr. Kumar’s work is based on Buddhist principles about suffering and living fully in consciousness.
This was one of the books I used as reference, to write my own book “Transform your Loss. Your Guide to Strength and Hope,” which introduced the system of transformation I created.
Keep in mind that the pain does not go away by ignoring it or hiding from it. The pain is relieved by embracing it, living it, and releasing it. That is why Principle II of the Eleven Principles of Transformation™ is, “Live your Grief.” Since we know that quality of life is the result of our choices, I ask again – what are you choosing?