by Ligia Houben | Jul 10, 2019 | Blog US
If you are one of those persons who constantly state,
I am so stressed out!
I do not have time for anything!
Life was more relaxed before!
I feel so overwhelmed!
What price are you paying for feeling this way, in your personal relationships? Your health? Your job’s performance? The quality of your life?
Many people feel they are victims of what is happening to them.
Do you feel you are one of them? What are you doing about it?
Do you expect things will get better by themselves or are you taking action?
It all starts with our mind. It all starts with our attitude. It all starts with our commitment.
I once heard a wonderful audiobook by the world-known speaker Jim Rohn, where he said these wise words:
If you want to be successful, study success!
If you want to be happy, study happiness!
I tell you….if you want to be relaxed and calm….learn techniques to be calmer and relaxed.
Many people say to me: How lucky, you do not have problems!
Well…I do face many challenges in life and what I do is, I choose to respond instead of reacting.
You can also learn how to do it!
First, I have learned to choose my vocabulary. I do my best to avoid using the word problem (sometimes it slips, but I correct myself immediately!).
I choose to use the word, challenge. And then, I transform it into opportunity. Just with that slight change…my whole perspective changes.
Just like you, I face difficult situations. However, I do not allow them to control my life. As I stated before, If it is something under my control, I solve it. If it is something, I can not control, I cope with it in a mindful way, and turn into gratitude for the beautiful things I have in my life.
I’ve been through difficult life transitions. I do have challenges in my life.
Still, I have learned to handle them in a positive way.
If I can do it, so do you!
Remember your life has meaning!
Have a beautiful day,
Ligia M. Houben
by Ligia Houben | Feb 20, 2017 | Blog US, Helpful resources
Happiness is not something you expect for tomorrow; it is something you decide for today.
                                                    -Ligia M. Houben
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Are You Choosing to be Happy?
All human beings strive for happiness. When we face a life-changing event, time does not stop. Life continues, and we continue living as well. One of the greatest reasons for embracing life after loss is the need for creating a sense of joy and meaning in our lives. Many people think that happiness means not having problems or pain when in reality happiness comes from experiencing inner peace, having an accepting attitude towards the things we cannot change, and cherishing the good moments.
If you find yourself grieving a loss, know that you may experience an array of emotions. Be compassionate with yourself. Acknowledge each emotion and take time to grieve. Still, do not dwell on it. Take each day at a time, and give yourself permission to be happy again. If you are feeling down…remember it is temporary. But, most of all, remember you have all the resources to feel better. You are not a victim of destiny. You are the designer of your own happiness.
Be Happy! Be happy from the inside out, do not allow either situations or people determine your happiness. Make the choice!
Remember that our emotions are a direct response to what we think about. Have happy thoughts and you will evoke positive emotions. Today choose to be happy. Even in the midst of difficulties…..You can!
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I know that sometimes it is difficult to take the first step but….if you are not happy with your life, reflect on what is holding you back to take action. Don’t settle for “hanging in there”….make each day an opportunity to grow and be happier. Choose to be happy and your outlook will take a whole new perspective.
Now is the time to bring that joy to your life. Now is the time to start a process that can transform your loss and change your life. In order to do this, and based on my own life’s experiences, I offer two workshops to bring us closer to live with more joy and…to be happy!
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One is the core of my message, The 11 Principles of Transformation which was designed to take you from loss into growth, as you learn to apply the necessary tools to transform your life.  The other workshop, Happiness is a Choice! is to remind you that….Happiness is a Choice! After my accident, I could have chosen to be bitter, angry, or depressed. Still, I chose to be happy because I have focused on being grateful to be alive, to enjoy doing the things I can do, and to keep hope in the future.
You cannot fake happiness.
This comes from within. Still, the beauty is that, with practice, it becomes your state of being. So, what can you start doing right now?
Start each day with a sense of gratitude, enthusiasm, and empowerment. You can make each week meaningful, loving, and productive. Focus on what you can do instead of complaining on what you “have” to do. Choose to be happy!
Remember…your life has meaning!
Ligia M. Houben
