- July 25, 2016
- Posted by: Admin
- Category: BLOG
In life, we experience situations when we just feel overwhelmed; when life is throwing curve balls to us; when we feel we have too much on our plate.
If you are going through an exhausting situation, you may wonder how you can stay positive, or how you can stay hopeful. What’s more, you may wonder how you can have a bright outlook if you are feeling beaten, with the desire to just lie down on the floor and let time go by.
If this is how you are feeling, you are not alone. It happens to all of us.
Based on my experience, college students feel overwhelmed. Adults with aging parents feel overwhelmed. Grieving grandmothers feel overwhelmed. However, this is the time when we need to be smart! This is the time when we need to acknowledge our situation, use strategies to bounce back, and deal with things in a meaningful way. If you feel you cannot do it by yourself, ask for help. Plan your days, plan your activities, and prioritize. You are just one person and there are times when you may need to say NO. This doesn’t mean you are selfish. It is just that you need to take care of yourself. We either choose to stand still, or to move forward. Nonetheless, at times when we feel overwhelmed, it is necessary to simply stay still and recharge our souls. Then, we will be able to continue moving forward. At these moments we need to be compassionate with ourselves and take some “me-time”
Give yourself a moment and let go of all external connections. Turn off your phone (yes, no texting!); no emails, no Facebook, and shut down. Then, take a deep breath in and as you exhale, let all your tension out. It does feel wonderful! Take this time to do some meditation, play soft music, or write in your journal. You can make a list of the things that are overwhelming you. Then, write a list of the actions you can take, about what is overwhelming you. As you do this, you realize you have the power of choosing how to handle it. It is your life, and just like grief, it is like riding a roller coaster. Sometimes we are up, and sometimes we are down. It is up to us if we fastened our seat belts tight while racing down, knowing that we will be pulled back again. Always look forward to that change of direction and cherish the moment. As you learn to live your life cherishing the beautiful moments…your capacity to handle challenges will expand and be transformed into strength, resilience, and empowerment.
Remember Your Life Has Meaning! Speaker, Author, Loss & Grief Coach